Chilled Evening

July 17 2013

I’m sprawled across my floor with a bunch of chilled things to do this evening! Cleopatra is playing and I’m admiring Miss Taylor’s costumes and makeup… can we just have a moment to appreciate this amazing movie? 
I’m also flipping through this month’s InStyle and grabbing so much inspiration! I was reading an article about colour and I began to think how fun it would be to incorporate more of it into my wardrobe and makeup looks! I’ve become so comfortable with my go-to classic black/white – with a pop of red 😉 – palette and even though I loooove it, I think it may be time for me to have a little fun! Hey, that’s what the blog is for right?

In the midst of all the colour are two wonderful books I recently picked up. The first is by Susan Cain, called “Quiet“. I was drawn to it by the white cover (no surprise there!), and after reading the blurb and the first few pages, I just had to buy it! It’s a book about the power of introverts. I did have to stop and ask myself “Am I an introvert?”. Being a Blogger and YouTuber it is hard to believe such, as the majority of my time online is spent expressing myself, my interests and the love I have for many things, in a sort of extroverted way. I love meeting new people, going out and having fun with friends. I’m assertive and strong-willed. …Extrovert Status?

But, and it’s a big but, I have always kept things I deem very special or personal, to myself. I’m the type that prefers to finish a project completely before sharing it with another person. I enjoy my own company. I tend to think before I speak, and very often I crave silence and solitude. …Introvert Status?

Can one be a mixture of both introvert and extrovert?

Anyhoo, I thought the book would be an interesting read!

The second book “Thinking fast and slow” by Daniel Kahneman was another that peaked my interest… I’m a big thinker, and any book or article about thinking is right up my street! I haven’t read much of it yet, but I will when I finish the first!

I also have instagram to go on (Obsessed!), stalk a few of my faves and post a pic or two! 😉
(I’m having a giveaway on mine so click here to find out more and enter!)

I would love to know, are you an introvert or extrovert? Or a mixture of both?



  • Reply Maddy July 17 2013 at 6:44 pm

    Looks like a perfect evening! Very jealous! x

    Maddy from UNSTITCHEDD 

  • Reply .MyStyleDiary July 17 2013 at 6:50 pm

    Love to read your post. Please post more often

  • Reply Carina M July 17 2013 at 6:54 pm

    Ooh that phone case is so cute! 🙂

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  • Reply Celina July 17 2013 at 6:55 pm

    I love reading your blog posts and watching your YouTube videos. I loved your interview with Ricky because you’re both such great people!

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  • Reply Nena Verbeeck July 17 2013 at 7:21 pm

    Very fun post!

    Actually, I think I’m a mix too… I like company and share with people what’s on my mind and stuff like that. But I’m also kind of shy with strangers. And some other stuff make me wonder if I’m introvert. Good question, Shirley! 🙂

  • Reply Daria July 17 2013 at 8:03 pm

    Love this, chill nights are the best 😉 xx

  • Reply StyleGodis July 17 2013 at 8:23 pm

    Ohh lovely!


  • Reply Elizabeth Daisy. July 17 2013 at 8:48 pm

    Both of those books look great reads, especially the second Shirley so thanks for sharing! I’m a really deep thinker so it sounds like my cup of tea! Also, I love your phone case!

    Elizabeth x

  • Reply Mo Ray July 17 2013 at 9:04 pm

    Ooo do you draw Shirley?
    ‘Quiet’is not a book I’d normally pick up but it does sound quite interesting. I would say I am more of an introvert than an extrovert… 🙂

    Mo x

  • Reply Zoe Bennett July 17 2013 at 9:11 pm

    Ooh I think I will have to give Quiet a read, as it looks rather interesting.I adore your phone case it’s really cute 🙂

    Have a lovely evening
    Zoe x

  • Reply Lauren July 17 2013 at 9:14 pm

    Cleopatra is such an excellent movie but I need to literally clear my schedule to fit in a watching of it! I still can’t believe that it lost money when it was released, what were the audience thinking!

  • Reply Soso Jaja July 17 2013 at 9:16 pm

    Lovely Post, nice to read something from you! I’m def an Intro very shy but i think it’s better the older I get 🙂 I’m gonna read the book thank you shirley 🙂

  • Reply Jules Styles July 17 2013 at 11:45 pm

    Love this post.I am horrible introverted to the point were i find it hard to keep friends around because they dont understand my constant need to be alone. I hate it when people take it soooo personal.

  • Reply Stephanie July 18 2013 at 1:06 am

    I am definitely an introvert so i have to look for both books to see if they are here in Australia

    xo Stephanie

  • Reply MakeupWithTea July 18 2013 at 3:07 am

    Your quiet time looks so peaceful and relaxing. 🙂

    And as for figuring out if you’re and introvert or extrovert, I know there’s a certain test out there that goes pretty deep into whether or not you’re an introvert or extrovert. Not really sure the name of the test, but the results look like: ENFP, INSJ, etc. It’s pretty detailed!

    Anyway, I’m pretty much an introvert with random bouts of extrovert-ness.

    Lynn | Makeup With Tea

  • Reply Rachael Naidu July 18 2013 at 3:25 am

    Lovely post. Love reading your blog posts. <3

  • Reply Jemimah A July 18 2013 at 3:36 am

    Definitely need to read that book

  • Reply Anna July 18 2013 at 7:22 am

    Oh I really love your photos <3!

  • Reply Alice July 18 2013 at 10:16 am

    I’ve just bought Thinking Fast and Slow it looks so interesting, I can’t wait to start it! I think I’m probably a mixture of both too. Before I started uni I was most definitely an introvert but I think over the past year i’ve definitely come out of my shell a lot more x

  • Reply BeautyInLagos July 18 2013 at 11:56 am

    I think I might be a mixture of both, but more of an introvert. I don’t really like meeting new people, and I love my own company. Seems like I’m more of an introvert 🙁 🙂

  • Reply Beth July 18 2013 at 12:07 pm

    Sounds like a lovely evening! I’m definitely an introvert, I really want to read that book now 🙂 xx

  • Reply Maya M July 18 2013 at 12:16 pm

    I couldn’t identify with you more in regards to being a mixture of an introvert and extrovert. Some of the qualities you mentioned are exact ones I see in myself that also lead me to wonder if one can be a mixture!


  • Reply Céline July 18 2013 at 1:27 pm

    I feel like bright and vibrant colors like that floral blazer you have really suit you 🙂
    I’m definitely an introverted person but I agree to think that being a blogger, I express things in an extroverted way. Maybe I’m a mixture of both.. I’d love to read that book actually 🙂 x

  • Reply Ashley July 18 2013 at 3:22 pm

    I’ve had my eyes on “Quiet” for some time now as I am definitely an introvert. Thanks to your post I think i’ll grab a copy this weekend!
    Oh and that phone case is adorable!

  • Reply Lubna O. July 18 2013 at 3:42 pm

    I personally think that the more colorful an outfit is, the better! It’ll boost your mood instantly and it’s lots of fun mixing different colors and hues and seeing what works together.

    About the book, I am definitely going to add it to my list! I love these kinds of reads. I believe I’m in between – just like you. As much as I love going out with friends and having fun, I also tend to make time for myself where I could finish projects alone and generally get some peace of mind.

    Lubna | ELLE VOX

  • Reply Monalisa July 18 2013 at 4:27 pm

    Looking for new books to read, might try those! 🙂

  • Reply Klaudia. July 18 2013 at 4:53 pm

    The colourful felt tips excite me the most, hah. I’m so sad 😉 <3

  • Reply talesfrommycloset July 18 2013 at 8:52 pm

    I love colour so definitely add it! I love your rug look so cosy! Interesting books…might have a read…

  • Reply saratuwrites July 19 2013 at 1:58 pm

    Would love to see you experiment with more colour, richer hues etc
    Heard about that book – Quiet. As a proper introverteally looking forward to reading it!

  • Reply Erica Wattley July 19 2013 at 3:04 pm

    I remember viewing a video of Susan Cain on YouTube, and I definitely plan on purchasing the book. As an aspiring attorney, I find myself to be an Introvert. However, I have read that Introverts do well in this field by virtue of the level of analysis and research required. I think persons are confused by Introverts and it is a shame because the world needs persons like myself. Introverts have a lot to offer.

  • Reply CB July 19 2013 at 5:19 pm

    love your blog and i’ve added you to my blogroll! would be absolutely great to have you guest post one day 🙂

  • Reply Olufemi Daniel July 20 2013 at 4:53 pm

    How do u keep u rug clean?

  • Reply Amber McNiff July 21 2013 at 6:17 am

    Great post 🙂


  • Reply Ama July 22 2013 at 1:38 am

    Theres a term called centrovert, which describes a person with a mix of both introverted and extroverted tendencies. (I discovered this in a book i read recently by Devora Zack called ‘networking’). But personally Im not sure what I really am :s, i have my moments when I really need to be alone and other times were I really want to be sociable. Im not sure whether its possible for a person to be in absolutely one group. Which is why I question these personality groups?. Don’t we all really have the tendency to be in both groups depending on the people we are with, the moods we are in and just generally how comfortable we feel. I dno? maybe I’m wrong. I Just don’t think its possible to categorise people in one of just two groups, we are all so different . p.s interesting post tho, and I luv u shirley soo much xxxx

  • Reply Nkhensani July 23 2013 at 2:30 pm

    I think it is possible for a person to be a mixture of introvert and extrovert. I suppose it depends on the situation- i.e. knowing how to behave, when- and maybe on a person’s individual sense of… confidence? Something like that. Good question!

    Now I have something to think about, and a few books to check out. 🙂

  • Reply Sanjot Kundi July 23 2013 at 6:58 pm

    I love how you put everything so neatly, looks so good in the pictures, the pictures portray the neatness in your personality… < check out my blog is possible 🙂

  • Reply watchthis sale July 24 2013 at 9:54 pm

    your phone is so cute, hope u had a lovely evening. x

  • Reply vivian Anonyuo July 25 2013 at 12:52 pm

    I recntly found out about this and after reading and going through ur posts, I totally love it. Wnderful. Shirley I must also say thank you cause u bring out the modest in fashion and lifestyle but yet u never take away the classy feel. We look for such for days without find. Keep it up

  • Reply vivian Anonyuo July 25 2013 at 12:54 pm

    I love the fact that u bring out so much class in simplicity and your blog is just a wonderful place to get that feel. I love your posts and I enjoy reading them

  • Reply Nengi Spiff July 27 2013 at 11:47 am

    I’m definitely a mixture of both and your set up looks super comfy. xx

  • Reply PETZ July 27 2013 at 5:54 pm

    I am definately an Ambivert. Although I think I am nearer to being Introverted as opposed to being Extroverted! I too am also thinking of adding more colour to my wardrobe as well as introducing more colours into my make-up routine. You know, it’s Summer and I think now is a great time to try out new things! 🙂

  • Reply Ciara July 29 2013 at 12:43 am

    I love your pictures! It’s great to get a peek into your world! 😛
    I think that I am a mixture of both. At times I can be loud and outgoing, but then I have times where I am into my own world. I think most people are a mixture of both…but then again I could be wrong!

  • Reply Lovejoy Styles July 30 2013 at 5:14 am

    Hi shirley 🙂 you are such an inspiration to so many young girls around the world. Speaking as one of those girls I just want to thank you for your insight on fashion and beauty. Most of all I want to thank you for letting your inner beauty shine through… you may not know this but you have given many of us the green light to love ourselves the way God created us……
    To channel my obsession for fashion I started a blog but I think it’s lacking substance (?) or something else perhaps.. If you get a chance and can offer me any feedback I would truly appreciate it.
    Thank you Shirley 🙂

  • Reply Ria July 31 2013 at 6:29 am

    Looks like a good night in. I’m definitely a mix between the two personality types.

  • Reply kay July 31 2013 at 5:36 pm

    OMG this is SO uncanny but i literally purchased these exact two books, at the same time last month!! we have totally the same taste in reading which is awesome! you’ll enjoy it very much; they’re both excellent books!

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  • Reply Kellys Vida August 2 2013 at 3:01 am

    Looks like a great evening. I think someone can be both intro- and extroverted and I think it’d describe me as well. When people talk to me they think I’m a total extrovert when in all reality I enjoy my own space so much more! 😉

  • Reply Lisa August 3 2013 at 6:13 pm

    looks like a pretty chill evening!

  • Reply Shonny August 4 2013 at 11:59 pm

    I am most certainly an introvert. Having time to myself is something I love and live for from time to time. I’m very much reserved about my feelings and things that are going on in my life. Now I want to find this book ha!

  • Reply The Little Londoner's Life August 5 2013 at 1:16 am

    Seems like my kind of evening xx

  • Reply abigailalicex August 5 2013 at 12:19 pm

    Gorgeous post! I study psychology and its normal for people to be a fairly even mixture of extrovert and introvert traits!

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  • Reply melissa ward August 7 2013 at 10:13 pm

    Great shots

  • Reply DeSandra August 12 2013 at 11:53 pm

    Hello Ms. Shirley,
    After seeing your post on instagram of the book Quiet, I had to pick it up says the book-alcoholic. LOL I am still reading but this book speaks to my soul. I knew I was an introvert but I also have qualities of an extrovert. One passage really spoke my truth, ” Introverts feel just right with less stimulation, as when sipping wine with a close friend, solving a crossword puzzle, or reading a book….they prefer to devote their social energies to close friends but after a while wish they were home in pajamas.” Now I can show my family that there are others out there like me.
    Ms.Shirley keep up the positive things you are doing. I’ll keep following!

  • Reply Kim Powell August 13 2013 at 2:11 pm

    It’s interesting. I actually took a slightly legitimate test and I was 100% introvert. But what I realized was I can be around big groups of people but still be in my own head, so the definition of introvert is quite jarring so it’s often seen as extreme but I believe introverts can exist in many capacities.

    Lovely photos Shirley.


  • Reply it'sok2bu*nique* August 14 2013 at 4:07 am

    that clutch is to die for…love it!

  • Reply Vivi N. August 18 2013 at 3:52 pm

    I’m definitely a mixture of both. But I lean heavily towards being an introvert.

  • Reply Ryn J August 27 2013 at 4:53 am

    Actually Shirley, as you will discover from your a person can be equally introverted and extroverted – They’re called Ambiverts 🙂 I recently saw a TEDtalks lecture with Susan Cain on the subject. I’ve been dying to pick up her book. I hope you enjoy it!

  • Reply Dan Yell November 24 2013 at 9:55 pm

    Def introvert!!!!

  • Reply Design Love Inspire January 6 2014 at 2:37 pm

    Good reads, I recently started reading the book Quiet, seeing as though I’m for sure an introvert. I like knowing that there’s some significance in thinking, analyzing situations. I’ve always been more of an observer, but in recent years I’ve learned to open up more.

  • Reply Angi January 27 2014 at 9:27 pm

    “Quiet” is one of those books I keep meaning to read but never get round to. It looks right up my street and I too appreciate the unique cover (I do graphic design so I was definitely swooning).

    It’s funny how a lot of bloggers tend to be introverts in real life – that’s definitely the case for me!

    Angi xx

  • Reply Marisa Shivers March 13 2014 at 9:03 pm

    Hi Shirley!
    I’m new to your blog and I just LOVE your style!
    The term you are looking for is “Ambivert”.
    I read about it in the book “To sell is human” by Daniel Pink. Check it out; it’s a goooood read!

  • Reply matthew d lyons May 29 2014 at 2:56 pm

    Very good books. Great blog!

  • Reply Marina November 11 2014 at 11:59 pm

    I love this blog!!!!! Chill Time is the best, I need to start reading Quiet and Thinking, Fast and Slow.
    Thanking for sharing!!!

  • Reply Xannique July 16 2015 at 9:32 pm

    I’m a mixture of both.. I’m extroverted in the sense that… If you approach me we can have a good conversation and i tend to be loud and carefree around loved ones and close friends.. And introverted in the sense that you will never find me in a crowd and i don’t approach people first.. they would have to speak to me… Also at home I’m very quiet in my own space… thinking deeply all the time… I’m very analytical in thinking so I will be home quietly reflecting on past, present and future aspects of my life

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