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Life, PHOTO DIARY
June 10 2015

Insta Times

I’ve been doing a lot more posting of pictures on my instagram, you know sometimes when you just want instant pictures to do the talking. I missed the little photo diary compilations of my favourite insta-posts, so here’s one today. I’m hoping to return to that point where sharing doesn’t feel so alien. One of the few cons of being the “Quiet” type*, you can get to a point where you feel trapped behind your silence, you forget what it’s like to be openly expressive and care free, not just with your opinions, but your creativity too. I want all that to change.
Well maybe not all, because I still love my introverted qualities, I just don’t want to feel crippled by them.
Balance is what I’m in need of. I know I’ll get there.
For now, baby steps.

And just in case anyone wanted to know where they can get their hands on some of the pieces featured,
you can now “Shop The Post” below.

*”Quiet” type: “You’re not the quiet type, you make YouTube Videos!” …I know this thought will cross some people’s minds, it’s even been said to me in real life before, but it’s true I make YouTube videos, but I’m also the quiet, introverted type who just happens to have extroverted qualities. Just so ya’know!
Find out if you’re like me or where you fall on the introvert-extrovert spectrum here.
Or a longer and more extensive test here.

45 Comments

  • Reply Samantha June 10 2015 at 1:48 pm

    I know exactly what you mean “quiet type”. I have chosen to pursue a career in Fashion, which I have thought about for probably 10 years, but I am always fearful of putting myself out their creatively. I say we make this collective goal for introverts everywhere to try and do something outside of our comfort box. On a side note, you seem to get prettier every post, and believe it or not you confidence and creativity has been coming through more in you videos lately. Keep it up.

  • Reply Kim June 10 2015 at 2:06 pm

    I’m totally the same! I prefer to be quiet, but still blog and do YouTube. I get you haha :)

    Kim
    http://trendkeeper.me .. Summer dresses?!

  • Reply Rachel June 10 2015 at 2:24 pm

    I think people have seriously confused ideas of what being an introvert can mean. We don’t all shy away and live in a hole! We’re out there in the real world, talking to people too! We just like our own company and aren’t necessarily as loud as others.

    Rachel | http://www.currentlyrachel.com

  • Reply Fatou June 10 2015 at 2:28 pm

    Hello Shirley,
    Personally this is the trait that I love the most your introverted side. You open your world in your way, and I feel like I know you as a virtual friend that I found on youtube. I’ve never had the feeling of staying at the doorway quite the opposite . You’re a quiet strength and your presence on social media although sometimes rare is always a real pleasure in the discovery of a new beautiful image of you or what surround you. It’s good to want to make a step forward, but do it only if you feel the urge deep. We love you as you are and with the best things you’ve already do.
    BTW I did the test and I am also introverted.
    Take care Shirley!.
    Fatou

    • Reply shirley June 10 2015 at 2:44 pm

      Thank you Fatou. You always leave such beautiful and inspiring comments. And you are right, only if I feel the urge deep down to. Much love. <3

  • Reply Nicky June 10 2015 at 2:34 pm

    I love posts like this. I totally get that introvert-extrovert stereotype. People always assume that just because I’m capable of socializing doesn’t mean I feel the need to do it all the time.

  • Reply kemuntos June 10 2015 at 2:39 pm

    I have no idea what I am, I’ve never been able to fully say I’m one or the other. I think I am a mixture of both, I’ll do the test and see. Love that you are posting here, I really like your blog! :)

    BTW! The test did say I was mixture of both! 😛

  • Reply millennielle June 10 2015 at 2:43 pm

    i always love seeing new content on your blog!! i too am more of an introvert, but i think one of the best things about blogging is the CREATIVE process as opposed to the act of oversharing :-) Thank of it that way, it makes everything easier!!
    xo, coco | millennielle.com

    • Reply shirley June 10 2015 at 3:06 pm

      Thank you. I so agree. I have a fear of oversharing, because I feel it will divert from the creative process which I enjoy so much. But often times, I wonder whether I’m too far behind a wall and unreachable, and I wouldn’t want any of you to feel that way or my creativity to not feel real enough for you to enjoy, you know? So happy you understand! <3

  • Reply Tola June 10 2015 at 3:00 pm

    I can relate. People hear the word introvert and automatically think “shy”.

  • Reply Chazmyane June 10 2015 at 4:06 pm

    I completely understand what you’re saying Shirley. I’m a introverted as well but I have recently come out of my shell since my retail job requires me to do so. I’ve decided to have a career in fashion as a designer & I know I’ll need to develop more articulately & expressively if I want to do well with presenting my ideas & collections to others. It’s kind of frightening yet exciting at the same time.

  • Reply Auneetuh June 10 2015 at 4:07 pm

    Same here, it also makes me uncomfortable when people mistake introverted with snobby or rude. We love our introverted ways and we are proud of them. Great post, loved it!

    P.S what app did you use for your photo collage?

  • Reply The Way I See It June 10 2015 at 4:09 pm

    I totally relate.
    http://wairimumurigi.blogspot.com/

  • Reply Vanessa C June 10 2015 at 4:27 pm

    Loving this post! I’ve taken the test and fall smack in the middle :)

    I appreciate your taking time out to chat with us! I normally don’t leave comments on posts, but I just had to this time! And I am definitely shopping your post! I’m obsessed with your wardrobe :)

    xxxo from Brooklyn, NY
    Vanessa
    _vuhnessa on Instagram

  • Reply Catherine June 10 2015 at 4:56 pm

    I know exactly what you mean Shirley. I just don’t want to share everything all the time but I think that can definitely be a good quality too. Love your Instagrams too, love the grey co-ord set! x
    http://cocoamay.blogspot.co.uk/

  • Reply hannah June 10 2015 at 5:37 pm

    Your grey on grey ensemble is giving me chills!! SOO CHIC! XX

    http://hannahhappily.blogspot.com

  • Reply Anna June 10 2015 at 8:17 pm

    Hi shirley! I love you and your videos so much, and this post makes me feel like I know you a little bit better. I also want to know how you edit your instagram photos? Your aesthetic is amazing <3

  • Reply Style Bits & Bobs of M.E. June 10 2015 at 10:40 pm

    I’m an introvert myself with a bit of extroverted qualities!

  • Reply shannette June 11 2015 at 12:30 am

    I love your photos. I can definitely relate to you
    I am also the quiet type and everything you wrote is right on point. And that is my weak point.
    http://www.fashionobsessher.blogspot.com

  • Reply Nia Fash June 11 2015 at 2:31 pm

    I am so the same thanks for sharing.

  • Reply Agnes June 11 2015 at 11:27 pm

    Cute photos! Love the neutral looks
    Agnes x

    http://blvckbee.com

    https://instagram.com/blvck.bee/

  • Reply drockz89 June 12 2015 at 12:41 am

    i tried to force myself to be more of an extrovert and it just…didn’t feel right lol can’t fight who you are!

  • Reply Lena June 12 2015 at 6:58 pm

    I think that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being a little more of an introvert. It’s an important aspect of your personality and that’s why I like you so much! Of course, you should try to find the right balance for you to be happy, but don’t feel as if you have to change into someone else ♥

  • Reply Laura Hadley June 14 2015 at 12:43 pm

    I am one of those people who get called the quiet type – know the feeling. Your photography is stunning!

    Laura | http://www.laurahadley.co.uk xx

  • Reply Janine G June 15 2015 at 3:03 am

    I too am an introvert with extroverted qualities.
    Most of the time I keep my thoughts to myself and I live inside my head…you can find me reading a book or doing some other things alone.
    But when I’ with friends and family or in some random instances I talkative and bubbly and engaging everybody.

    Nothing wrong with it…just how we are haha.

    xo

  • Reply Tamico June 15 2015 at 3:23 pm

    Funny because I have always been the quiet type but I have no problem making a YouTube video. If this makes and sense I am an introverted person in different atmospheres.

  • Reply Lisette June 16 2015 at 2:24 pm

    Hi Shirley!

    I understand what you mean with the ‘quiet’ type. I can relate to it!

    I bought the same skirt that you’re wearing, but it fits so tight at my calves that I barely can’t walk. This sounds so stupid, haha. On my other parts it fits great. Don’t you have that problem when you’re wearing it?

  • Reply Marie June 17 2015 at 9:43 pm

    Oh Shirley, I missed you! I understand what you mean about the ‘quiet’ type :) Your looks are always so clean and minimalistic in the most perfect way.
    http://www.adxmaiora.com/summer-mode/

  • Reply helen June 18 2015 at 3:40 pm

    hi Shirley,

    i am avid reader of your blog every since i discovered your youtube channel, i admire the fact that you have carved a niche for your self while you still maintained the core values that makes you who you are, just want to say that you are an inspiration. this is my first time ever that am posting on a blog.

  • Reply helen June 18 2015 at 3:47 pm

    PS: i wanted to add that i totally understand your write up as i am some one who is very fashionable but quite reserved which tends to create the misconception that my reservation is a result of pride or shyness, in the earlier stages of my life i used to agonize over this but now i know that those who take the steps to know me find out that am neither of those things, i guess that’s why i dislike stereotyping especially with regards to people. Xo

  • Reply helen June 18 2015 at 3:51 pm

    agreed

  • Reply helen frank June 18 2015 at 3:54 pm

    so true

  • Reply Michalina June 21 2015 at 10:04 pm

    It would be awesome if you would to sing up to soundcloud. I would like to know what kind of music you enjoy listening :)
    xxx

  • Reply Jada June 22 2015 at 9:01 pm

    Shirley, as a young inexperienced 14 year old fashion/beauty blogger, your blog posts and YouTube videos are so helpful and inspiring for me! I also took the introvert-extrovert test you linked and turns out i’m smack in the middle, an ambivert aha. Thank you for doing what you do, keep it up! <3 And anyone willing to take the time to look at my new blog, A La Baron, will be much appreciated, thank you xo

  • Reply Shante' June 26 2015 at 11:08 am

    I totally get you! lol. I’ve been described as “an introvert in an extroverted way” . I’m a Capricorn too so I completely get it. and thank you for this post. been trying to find some sort of balance and not let me introverted side take over. Being aloof all the time doesn’t serve anyone.

  • Reply Kay June 27 2015 at 2:10 pm

    I’m an extroverted introvert :) Totally understand how you feel. Me time before we time!

  • Reply Fatou June 27 2015 at 9:10 pm

    One of the few cons of being the “Quiet” type*, you can get to a point where you feel trapped behind your silence, you forget what it’s like to be openly expressive and care free, not just with your opinions, but your creativity too.

    That spoke to me. I haven’t shared a picture of me in like 5 years and although i’m very opinionated I just stopped putting my thoughts out there ? I wasn’t always this way though, I used to be calm and I liked my space but at the same time I was social and I liked sharing my thoughts (mostly about social injustice). I was depressed when I started college because I was so confused about what I really wanted to do (I’m a maths & engineering graduate) and somehow during that period I got addicted to solitude.
    I feel like you’re balanced in your sharing. It’s not too much or too little, it’s just enough. We all respect and love you regardless.
    I hope to be like that one day, start sharing again but no so much that I feel uncomfortable about it.

  • Reply joyce July 5 2015 at 5:45 pm

    hi shirley , am joyce from Ghana . i reli love ur style .i have watched most of ur videos and i love ,love, love them …. and i love it in doors but when i get out of the house i still have fun with my frnds …. and also shirley am 18 and i have being reli struggling when ever i want to go out , cause i cant put something together …. pls can u help me … i want to dress up like u … decent but nice …. and i love ur room

  • Reply ibitayo July 7 2015 at 7:22 pm

    One thing I’m certain about you is that, you’re very well put together..and your love for whites…very evident. I love your style Shirley B. Eniang!

  • Reply Krystal July 14 2015 at 12:53 am

    I love the photos. I definitely understand how it feels being an introvert.

    Krystal

  • Reply Connie July 20 2015 at 2:34 am

    I love the commentary on this post! It’s so refreshing to know that im not the only one who struggles with their introvert/extrovert duality as well. Please continue to share!

    Connie

  • Reply Angel October 29 2015 at 1:28 pm

    One word for you Shirley..timeless. I always love what you offer us such a inspiration that is always welcome.

  • Reply Jennxo November 19 2015 at 7:41 pm

    your style is amazing !

  • Reply KD February 24 2016 at 12:11 pm

    wow, I feel so energized by these comments. One thing I know is, us Introverts are extremely creative but we spend so much time living in our heads that we fear to share wondering what other people will think of us. Maybe it is the stigma attached to introverts I don’t know…. But after reading these comments, I am so motivated to share my creativity with others.. thank you XOXO

  • Reply Chinyere October 11 2016 at 2:33 am

    I think I’m a mix of both. Youtube scares me. I’ve tried and still trying but it seems harder for fear of divulging too much

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